ETIQUETTE

MUST-HAVES IN YOUR WEDDING BUDGET

TIPS

Although they are not required, it's a nice gesture to reward GOOD SERVICE. Read your vendor contracts thoroughly to see if a gratuity is already part of the pricing.

OFFICIANT/CLERGY

Up to $100 "donation" is appropriate

If you feel your Officiant/Clergy's fee is already a little pricey, it's okay to forego the "donation" without feeling shamed. Now on the otherhand, if this service is provided by your homechurch clergy, and you're planning to be away from service for a week or two, then consider offering your tithes "in advance".

CEREMONY SITE STAFF

at least $20 per person

This gratuity is for everyone working behind the scenes helping make your day look flawless. If possible, ask the venue's administrator or coordinator what staff members (First names, Last initial) will be setting up, providing services during, and after your ceremony. Even though you paid a rental fee for the space, this generally goes directly to the property owner for their costs of electricity, water, and other amentities. These staff members are always overlooked!

DELIVERY/SETUP PERSONNEL

$10 - $20 EACH

Decorators, florists, cake, etc.

RECEPTION WAIT STAFF

$20-$40 EACH

BARTENDERS

15-20% of entire bar bill

RECEPTION SITE MANAGER

18-22% of entire bill

Remember, they make sure you and your guests are feed and have a good time!

DJ/BAND

15-20% of fee given the band leader or DJ

The DJ/MC is the orchestrator of your reception.

PARKING ATTENDANTS

$2-$5 PER CAR

Particularly if you are requesting your guests NOT to tip to valets.

LIMOUSINE DRIVER(S)

15-20% of total bill

limousine service

Questions to ask before...NOT after.

What kind of vehicles do you use?

The larger the wedding party and number of guests needing assistance, the more you'll need.

Can you see the actual vehicle(s)?

You're looking for condition, safety, and possibly meeting your driver(s).

What is your vehicle substitution policy?

If it's not an acceptable option, move on to the next.

Who will be your chauffeur?

We all know things can change in the blink of an eye but it's good to meet your potential driver in advance.

How far in advance do you need to book with deposit?

Usually 50% with a clear understanding of their refund policy.

What does your insurance policy cover?

FULL COVERAGE!

What is the minimum number of hours required to book services?

Include pickups, dropoffs, return trips, length of ceremony and reception.

Is there an overtime fee?

Can we decorate?

Usually not a good idea but if you insist.

What is your policy on eating and drinking in the vehicle?

Not recommended, but if you must...

COVID-19 and Wedding Planning

Our industry is taking every measure to properly and safely assist you in your celebrations and wedding plans. There are still so many unknowns as to how long this will last, where is it most impacted, and when should you consider rescheduling or altering your wedding.

During 20+ years of teaching Event and Wedding Planning, I helped planners understand the impact of medical emergencies, weather-related, technical and logistical challenges but something as catastrophic as this virus was never part of the curriculum. I would also offer consult on managing anxiety, stress and depression during various phases of planning for planners, brides and grooms - but not for something like this.

My colleagues and my team are staying abreast of this ever-evolving news cycle as best we possibly can.

Our advise is simple - use common sense. Think about, and ask your guests, if they have any underlying conditions that may make them susceptible to not just the Coronavirus but any allergies to food, smoke, fragrance, etc.

Think about the make up of your guests. Are they elderly, frail? Do they have vision, hearing, or mobility challenges. Within your invitations, don't be embarrassed to ask your guests to refrain from using colognes/perfumes; smoking/vaping, even if your ceremony and/or reception is outdoors.

Stay up-to-date on local and national news, particularly if your guests are traveling or if you're still planning a destination wedding this year or beyond.

Think about your options of hosting a more intimate ceremony (limiting bridal party members and number of guests) and possibly delaying your reception until a later date.

Whatever your decision, we're here for you!

As always, we wish you the best in Love and Life. Stay well, stay safe.

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